Help Wanted — The Art of Asking (and Receiving)

Dear Friends and Colleagues,

Today on the Event Strategies for Success blog, our consulting partner Lynette Battle returns with a timely reflection for the fall season — “The Art of Asking (and Receiving) Help.”

The right kind of help can be the bridge between challenge and clarity — or the connection that carries us from uncertainty to confidence. Whether it comes through a trusted mentor, a thoughtful colleague, or a timely resource, help done well doesn’t just solve problems; it strengthens relationships.

Lynette reminds us that in nonprofit work — and in life — help is a beautiful thing, but clarity matters. Read more to explore how to reach out, ask with intention, and receive with grace when the moment calls.


Dear Colleagues,

Working in nonprofit spaces teaches you a lot about the art of asking for help. It’s part of the territory. Whether it’s for volunteers, donations, partnerships, or a last-minute save at an event — calls for help are constant. And like many of you, when I feel compelled, I show up. No fanfare, no strings. I roll up my sleeves and get to work. That’s just who I am. And I know I’m not alone.

Most people who step up to help do so from a place of genuine spirit. When they feel called, they answer — bringing with them their time, talent, and whatever resources they can muster. It’s one of the most beautiful things about humanity: when the spirit moves, we move.

But there’s an important lesson, one that bears repeating for anyone — especially those in leadership roles:
When you ask for help, be clear about what help looks like.

Too often, someone responds to a call for help with everything they have — only to be met with disappointment, frustration, or even blame because it wasn’t “the right kind” of help.  Maybe they donated time when you wanted money. Maybe they offered advice when you wanted action. Maybe they showed up differently than you envisioned.

Here’s the hard truth:
If you don’t define the ask clearly, you can’t fault someone for how they show up.

This isn’t just a nonprofit thing — it’s a life thing. In business, in friendship, in everyday moments — clarity matters. When help is vague, expectations go unmet. And when people who genuinely want to support feel criticized, it doesn’t just sting — it sticks. Some may walk away defeated, others angry, and sadly, some may decide not to step up again at all.

So, if you’re making the call:

  • Be specific about what you need.
  • Be clear about the deliverable.
  • Be honest about the timeline.
  • And be gracious, even if what someone offers looks different than you envisioned.

Because sometimes, the best help isn’t exactly what you imagined — but it’s exactly what you needed.

Help is a gift. Treat it like one. And when you ask, honor the hands that are willing to reach out and lift you up.

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(1) Be Specific with Your Ask

Vagueness is the enemy of progress. Saying “I need help with my event” is too broad. Say instead: “I’m looking for someone to help manage registration from 10 AM to 12 PM. Can you take that on?”

Why it matters:
People are more likely to say yes when they know exactly what’s needed.

(2) Be Honest About What You Really Need

Are you looking for time, money, a skill, a connection, or simply a listening ear? Don’t sugarcoat the ask. “I need someone to review this grant with me — not just moral support, but actual line-by-line edits.”

Why it matters:
Misalignment between what’s asked and what’s delivered can lead to tension or disappointment.

(3) Understand Capacity Before Assuming Capability

Not everyone who wants to help can help in the way you envision. Ask with flexibility and empathy. “If you don’t have time to volunteer, would you be open to making an introduction to someone else?”

Why it matters:
You honor the relationship and expand your network at the same time.

(4) Say What Help Isn’t

Sometimes it’s just as helpful to say, “I don’t need you to donate — I need you to repost this campaign,” or “I’m not looking for advice, just a listening ear.”

Why it matters:
It keeps everyone on the same page and avoids well-meaning but unhelpful actions.

(5) Don’t Micromanage Generosity

If someone shows up in good faith, receive their help with grace — even if it’s not exactly your way. If it’s off-track, redirect kindly and early. “Thank you so much — this is great. Would you mind adjusting XYZ to better align with what we’re aiming for?”

Why it matters:
How you treat people after they say yes determines if they’ll say yes again.

(6) Express Gratitude Publicly and Privately

Whether someone helped a little or a lot — recognize it. Send the thank you. Tag them in the post. Mention their name in the room.

Why it matters:
Appreciation builds a culture where people feel safe and want to help again.

(7) Reflect Before You Request Again

After each ask, take time to reflect: Was I clear? Did I respect people’s time? Did I accept help with humility? This builds your reputation as someone who leads with integrity.

Why it matters:
Sustainable support is built on trust and clarity, not just urgency.


Please remember, we are here to support you on your fundraising journey. Also please download the infographic and keep it handy! Here’s to your success!

In Community,
Lynette Battle

When Leadership Refuses to Transition

By Lynette Battle

It’s always a privilege to share the wisdom of our consulting contributors, and today we’re especially glad to welcome back Lynette Battle. Her last blog post in April sparked important discussion around leadership transitions in grassroots nonprofits. In her newest piece, “When Leadership Refuses to Transition – How Founder Syndrome Strangles Grassroots Nonprofits,” Lynette once again invites us to look honestly at the challenges facing mission-driven organizations — and how leaders can navigate them with courage and clarity.


In the nonprofit sector, particularly among grassroots organizations serving historically underserved communities, leadership transitions are often an afterthought — or worse, an outright taboo. A troubling pattern has emerged: many nonprofits are being held hostage by their own founders or longtime executive directors, who, despite their early and important work, now stand as barriers to the organization’s growth and sustainability.

They see the nonprofit as their “baby,” something they nurtured from infancy. But what they fail to recognize is that the organization has matured. Like any healthy adult, a thriving nonprofit must be allowed to evolve, adapt, and even outgrow its founding leadership. Without that evolution, the result is often organizational stagnation — or complete collapse.

The numbers tell a grim story. According to BoardSource’s 2021 Leading with Intent report, only 29% of nonprofits have a formal written succession plan. That leaves over two-thirds dangerously unprepared for leadership changes. For grassroots nonprofits — especially those led by people of color serving marginalized communities — the risk is even more acute.

Candid’s research highlights that nonprofits led by women of color tend to operate with annual budgets under $50,000, compared to the predominantly white-led organizations commanding multi-million-dollar resources. In these underfunded, overstretched organizations, leadership transition is often delayed not because of lack of recognition — but because the founder or executive director refuses to let go.

Founder syndrome — when a founding leader holds tight to power — is a real and devastating phenomenon. It happens when:

  • The founder equates the organization’s identity with their own.
  • There is resistance to change, modernization, or new leadership styles.
  • Boards are passive, allowing founders unchecked control.
  • No succession plan is created because there is no intention to leave.

In these cases, the very person who once fought to build something meaningful becomes the person standing in the way of the organization’s future. Their reluctance to relinquish control prevents the nonprofit from attracting new talent, expanding its impact, or adapting to meet evolving community needs.

Without proper leadership evolution:

  • Programs suffer. Innovation slows down or halts altogether.
  • Staff turnover increases. Talented individuals leave when they see no room for advancement.
  • Funding dries up. Funders grow wary of instability and a lack of succession planning.
  • Community trust erodes. Communities are left underserved or abandoned when organizations shutter unexpectedly.

Indeed, the National Center on Charitable Statistics has found that roughly 30% of nonprofits fail to survive past 10 years — and poor leadership transitions are a major contributing factor.

For nonprofits — especially those rooted in historically underserved communities — survival depends on being bigger than one person’s vision.

To truly serve the community, organizations must:

  1. Create and Commit to Succession Plans: Identify and prepare the next generation of leadership early.
  2. Shift from Founder-Centric to Mission-Centric: Embed the mission, not the individual, at the heart of the organization.
  3. Build Leadership Pipelines: Invest in mentoring and development of internal staff and board members.
  4. Empower Strong, Independent Boards: Boards must govern, not rubber-stamp founder decisions.

If a nonprofit is truly a gift to the community, then it must live beyond the tenure — or ego — of any one individual. Leadership is not just about founding; it’s about stewarding, evolving, and sometimes stepping aside so that the organization can meet the needs of today and tomorrow.

The ultimate legacy for a founder is not holding on — it’s letting go, and leaving behind a stronger, sustainable institution that continues to change lives long after they are gone.

The Moment the Pressure Mounts – Navigating Challenges and Expectations

Dear Friends and Colleagues,

Thank you for tuning in for the second article in our series, “The Crisis Begins – Identifying the Warning Signs.”  This week, we delve into how “The Pressure Mounts” in the thick of event planning. This post highlights pivotal moments where resilience and decision-making are tested.  

Initially marked by past success, our event’s partnership with the catering team faced unforeseen financial discrepancies this year.  Despite a $5,000 increase in our budget, amounting to a 25-30% hike, it proved insufficient due to unexpected logistical needs and venue changes. 

Different table sizes required new linen rentals—a cost neither the host nor caterer anticipated and couldn’t absorb. Additionally, the promised quality and quantity of food diminished. The once bountiful chicken and fish entrees were replaced with portions that seemed to echo our tightened budget, leaving our guests underwhelmed.

While visually appealing, the venue couldn’t support our logistical needs effectively.  Outside event hosts are never permitted to use crucial kitchen facilities, a stark contrast to the prior year’s accommodation. This forced the caterer to rely solely on external resources for basic needs like heating food, further straining our already limited budget.

A defining moment occurred during a pre-event discussion that laid bare the misalignment between our expectations and the caterer’s interpretation of the contract.  The caterer did mention that circumstances would change; yet, they did not fully document these changes in writing or offer prepared alternatives, which led to heightened tensions and a last-minute scramble to adjust plans.

This episode in our event saga reminds us of the crucial need for vigilance in contract negotiations and the importance of clear, ongoing communication.  As we continue to navigate these turbulent waters, we must also prepare to adapt swiftly and effectively.

  • How can event planners guarantee vendor agreements are robust enough to handle unexpected changes?
  • How can we improve our crisis management skills to better handle similar pressures in the future?
  • What strategies can be employed to keep high service standards despite budget constraints?

Stay tuned for our next post, “Crisis Response – Taking Control of the Narrative,” to explore how to reclaim control and steer your event back on course despite overwhelming odds.

Here’s to your success.

Monique 

Future-Proofing Nonprofit Fundraising: Thriving in a Changing Landscape

Dear Friends and Colleagues,

At Event Strategies For Success, we are always exploring forward-thinking approaches to nonprofit development. Today, we’re sharing an article by Lynette Battle, who is also one of our esteemed consulting blog contributors, offering insights into “Future-Proofing Nonprofit Fundraising: Thriving in a Changing Landscape.” As we continue to navigate shifts in the sector, we welcome diverse perspectives on these important topics.


In the wake of recent federal directives dismantling diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) initiatives, nonprofits serving historically excluded communities face unprecedented challenges in fundraising and development. This shift while adding new complexities to fundraising, grantmaking, and development efforts offers a new opportunity.

Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) is not dead—it’s just evolving. As funding landscapes shift and legal scrutiny increases, nonprofits must adapt, strategize, and build resilience to continue their critical work.

Below are seven actionable steps your nonprofit can take to navigate fundraising and development in this new era.

1. Reaffirm Your Commitment to DEI

Now more than ever, it’s crucial to stand firm in your mission. Even as external pressures attempt to dilute DEI efforts, your organization must embed inclusivity into your DNA.

🔹 Reevaluate your mission statement to ensure it reflects your ongoing commitment.
🔹 Train staff and board members to communicate DEI principles effectively.
🔹 Develop messaging that underscores the universal benefits of diversity and equity.

With increased scrutiny on race-conscious programs, nonprofits must proactively ensure legal compliance in fundraising and grantmaking.

✅ Review funding criteria—if race-based, consider shifting to broader economic or geographic qualifiers.
✅ Engage legal counsel to assess potential risks and refine fundraising strategies.
✅ Explore alternative impact metrics to demonstrate your organization’s commitment to serving marginalized communities.

3. Diversify Your Funding Sources

Relying on a single funding stream is risky. With government and foundation grants under potential threat, your organization should build a well-rounded funding portfolio.

💡 Expand fundraising efforts to include:
✔️ Individual donors and major gifts programs
✔️ Corporate sponsorships with DEI-aligned brands
✔️ Community-driven fundraising campaigns

A diversified funding strategy enhances stability and reduces vulnerability to political and legal shifts.

4. Shift Focus to Socioeconomic Factors

If race-based initiatives are under legal challenge, consider addressing economic disparities instead. Many historically excluded communities face systemic barriers tied to income, education, and geography.

🎯 Funders may be more willing to support programs designed around:
✔️ Low-income status
✔️ First-generation college students
✔️ Small business owners from under-resourced communities

By broadening your criteria, your nonprofit can continue serving its core audience while staying legally compliant.

5. Strengthen Community Engagement

The most powerful asset in fundraising isn’t just money—it’s people. When communities feel truly engaged, they become ambassadors, advocates, and donors.

🚀 Ways to deepen community ties:
✔️ Host listening sessions to understand evolving community needs.
✔️ Encourage storytelling—real impact stories inspire donors.
✔️ Launch a peer-to-peer fundraising campaign where supporters can raise money within their networks.

Community engagement builds trust and attracts sustainable funding.

6. Advocate for Inclusive Policies

Nonprofits can’t afford to be silent in the face of shifting policies. While adapting to legal constraints, continue pushing for systemic change.

✔️ Join coalitions that advocate for inclusive funding policies.
✔️ Educate policymakers on the importance of DEI funding.
✔️ Leverage research to show the economic benefits of investing in historically excluded communities.

Your advocacy efforts can help shape a more equitable philanthropic landscape.

7. Educate Donors and Stakeholders

Many funders do not fully grasp the impact of affirmative action rollbacks. Your nonprofit must lead the conversation and ensure supporters understand the stakes.

💡 How to educate your donor base:
✔️ Host webinars on how legal changes affect funding for underrepresented groups.
✔️ Share impact reports showing how your work fosters economic mobility.
✔️ Provide clear donation options tied to specific outcomes.

When donors see the urgency and impact of their support, they are more likely to remain committed.

The legal and political landscape may be shifting, but your mission is still vital. By staying proactive, diversifying funding, and deepening community engagement, your nonprofit can turn challenges into opportunities.

💡 Fundraising in the post-affirmative action era isn’t about retreating—it’s about evolving.

What strategies has your organization adopted to navigate these changes? Share your insights! 👇🏾

References

Addressing Housing Inequality: Honoring Dr. King’s Legacy

A staircase that visualizes the quote "Faith is taking the first step, even when you don't see the whole staircase"

Dear Friends,

As Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. powerfully stated, “Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” This simple yet profound statement captures the spirit of those working tirelessly to create affordable housing solutions in communities nationwide. Dr. King’s words serve as a powerful reminder that progress often starts with bold, unwavering action, even in uncertainty.

sculpture of martin luther king jr memorial in gray concrete wall
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This year, as we celebrate Dr. King’s legacy on January 20, 2025, we can’t ignore persistent housing challenges millions of Americans face. According to recent statistics, nearly 31.3% of U.S. households are cost-burdened, spending more than 30% of their income on housing.

The situation is even more dire for renters, with close to 50% facing housing insecurity. The gap between the availability of affordable homes and the needs of low-income families continues to widen, making the work of housing-focused nonprofits more critical than ever.

How Nonprofits Tackle Housing Inequality

Nonprofit organizations play a pivotal role in addressing these challenges. They offer immediate housing solutions and advocate for systemic change to create a more equitable society. One example is Carrfour Supportive Housing, based in Miami-Dade County, Florida.  As the leading not-for-profit provider of supportive housing in Florida, Carrfour Supportive Housing now oversees an inventory of over 1,700 units of supportive housing across Miami-Dade County, serving more than 3,000 residents. All told, Carrfour has provided affordable and permanent housing for more than 10,000 formerly homeless men, women and children since its founding.

Another inspiring organization is Homeless Solutions, Inc. in New Jersey, which offers a continuum of housing services, from emergency shelters to transitional housing. Their work exemplifies how nonprofits act as lifelines for individuals and families striving to regain stability and independence.

These stories show how Dr. King’s dream of equity and justice can be realized. They show that faith in action—coupled with strategic planning and community support—can create ripples of change that extend far beyond individual households.

The Climb to Dignity: Housing as a Journey of Faith and Courage

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Dr. King’s emphasis on faith challenges us to take the first step toward progress, even when the path ahead isn’t entirely clear.

A staircase is a powerful metaphor for the journey toward affordable housing. Each step symbolizes the effort, courage, and collaboration needed to make progress. For many, reaching the top signifies achieving the stability of a home—a space where dreams can take root and futures can flourish. Just as a staircase bridges different levels, affordable housing serves as a vital connection to opportunities, community, and hope.

Taking the First Step

The path to solving the housing crisis may seem daunting, but as Dr. King’s words remind us, progress begins with a single step. This might mean supporting local nonprofits through donations or volunteerism, advocating for affordable housing policies, or simply spreading awareness about these organizations’ critical role in our communities.

A Call to Action

On this Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Holiday, let’s honor his legacy by taking that first step. Whether through contributing to nonprofits like Carrfour, Homeless Solutions, or your favorite organization, educating ourselves about the housing crisis, or lending our voices to calls for systemic reform, each action brings us closer to building a society where safe, affordable housing is a reality for all.

Fondly,

Monique

Smart Solutions for Small Budgets: Leveraging AI in 2025 to Drive Nonprofit Impact

January

Fondly,

Monique

Holiday Compassion in Brooklyn: Supporting Those in Need

The Power of Helping Others. Volunteers serve with care and show compassion
Empowering Brooklyn residents through educational success, leadership development,
and community stability.
Shaping Brooklyn’s future through equity and justice initiatives.
Fostering growth and advancement for under-served families through education and support.
A pillar of community health for Brooklyn residents.
A vital advocate for racial justice and gender equality for over 130 years.

Gratitude in Action: Honoring Nonprofit Leaders and the Communities They Transform

The word Gratitude appears over a cornucopia

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Volunteers, too, deserve our heartfelt thanks. They embody the spirit of service, often stepping forward without expectation of recognition. Volunteers amplify the efforts of nonprofit leaders, often serving as their hands and feet on the ground.

Whether by offering their time or expertise, volunteers are an indispensable part of realizing the visions nonprofit leaders work so tirelessly to bring to life.

As we celebrate the Season of Gratitude, it’s worth acknowledging how volunteerism fosters a sense of shared purpose and strengthens community bonds. Initiatives like volunteer exchange programs or joint community projects highlight the transformative power of collaboration—a testament to what we can achieve when we come together.




Age Friendly Central Brooklyn
American Foundation for the University of the West Indies (AFUWI)
Brooklyn Org
Brooklyn Metropolis Lions Club (BMLC)
Crown Heights Service Center (CHSC)
Metropolitan Black Bar Association (MBBA)
Nubian Conservatory of Music
Urban League of Long Island


Maximize Your Fundraising for Giving Tuesday & Beyond

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  • Include clear messaging about the tax benefits of donating in your appeals.
  • Offer resources or a link explaining charitable contribution guidelines.
  • Add a Giving Tuesday specific tax benefit reminder on your landing page, in all emails and social media content.






Nonprofit Fundraising Insights from Event Strategies For Success Fall 2024 Workshop

Dear Friends and Colleagues,

  • Expanding Access to Funding Opportunities
  • Strengthening Collaboration with Other Nonprofits
  • Major Gifts & Capital Campaigns
  • Annual Fund Campaigns
  • Planned Giving (Wills, Trusts, Bequests)
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