Dear Friends and Colleagues,
Today on the Event Strategies for Success blog, our consulting partner Lynette Battle returns with a timely reflection for the fall season — “The Art of Asking (and Receiving) Help.”
The right kind of help can be the bridge between challenge and clarity — or the connection that carries us from uncertainty to confidence. Whether it comes through a trusted mentor, a thoughtful colleague, or a timely resource, help done well doesn’t just solve problems; it strengthens relationships.
Lynette reminds us that in nonprofit work — and in life — help is a beautiful thing, but clarity matters. Read more to explore how to reach out, ask with intention, and receive with grace when the moment calls.
Dear Colleagues,
Working in nonprofit spaces teaches you a lot about the art of asking for help. It’s part of the territory. Whether it’s for volunteers, donations, partnerships, or a last-minute save at an event — calls for help are constant. And like many of you, when I feel compelled, I show up. No fanfare, no strings. I roll up my sleeves and get to work. That’s just who I am. And I know I’m not alone.
Most people who step up to help do so from a place of genuine spirit. When they feel called, they answer — bringing with them their time, talent, and whatever resources they can muster. It’s one of the most beautiful things about humanity: when the spirit moves, we move.
But there’s an important lesson, one that bears repeating for anyone — especially those in leadership roles:
When you ask for help, be clear about what help looks like.
Too often, someone responds to a call for help with everything they have — only to be met with disappointment, frustration, or even blame because it wasn’t “the right kind” of help. Maybe they donated time when you wanted money. Maybe they offered advice when you wanted action. Maybe they showed up differently than you envisioned.
Here’s the hard truth:
If you don’t define the ask clearly, you can’t fault someone for how they show up.
This isn’t just a nonprofit thing — it’s a life thing. In business, in friendship, in everyday moments — clarity matters. When help is vague, expectations go unmet. And when people who genuinely want to support feel criticized, it doesn’t just sting — it sticks. Some may walk away defeated, others angry, and sadly, some may decide not to step up again at all.
So, if you’re making the call:
- Be specific about what you need.
- Be clear about the deliverable.
- Be honest about the timeline.
- And be gracious, even if what someone offers looks different than you envisioned.
Because sometimes, the best help isn’t exactly what you imagined — but it’s exactly what you needed.
Help is a gift. Treat it like one. And when you ask, honor the hands that are willing to reach out and lift you up.
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Tips to Master the Art of Asking for Help
(1) Be Specific with Your Ask
Vagueness is the enemy of progress. Saying “I need help with my event” is too broad. Say instead: “I’m looking for someone to help manage registration from 10 AM to 12 PM. Can you take that on?”
Why it matters:
People are more likely to say yes when they know exactly what’s needed.
(2) Be Honest About What You Really Need
Are you looking for time, money, a skill, a connection, or simply a listening ear? Don’t sugarcoat the ask. “I need someone to review this grant with me — not just moral support, but actual line-by-line edits.”
Why it matters:
Misalignment between what’s asked and what’s delivered can lead to tension or disappointment.
(3) Understand Capacity Before Assuming Capability
Not everyone who wants to help can help in the way you envision. Ask with flexibility and empathy. “If you don’t have time to volunteer, would you be open to making an introduction to someone else?”
Why it matters:
You honor the relationship and expand your network at the same time.
(4) Say What Help Isn’t
Sometimes it’s just as helpful to say, “I don’t need you to donate — I need you to repost this campaign,” or “I’m not looking for advice, just a listening ear.”
Why it matters:
It keeps everyone on the same page and avoids well-meaning but unhelpful actions.
(5) Don’t Micromanage Generosity
If someone shows up in good faith, receive their help with grace — even if it’s not exactly your way. If it’s off-track, redirect kindly and early. “Thank you so much — this is great. Would you mind adjusting XYZ to better align with what we’re aiming for?”
Why it matters:
How you treat people after they say yes determines if they’ll say yes again.
(6) Express Gratitude Publicly and Privately
Whether someone helped a little or a lot — recognize it. Send the thank you. Tag them in the post. Mention their name in the room.
Why it matters:
Appreciation builds a culture where people feel safe and want to help again.
(7) Reflect Before You Request Again
After each ask, take time to reflect: Was I clear? Did I respect people’s time? Did I accept help with humility? This builds your reputation as someone who leads with integrity.
Why it matters:
Sustainable support is built on trust and clarity, not just urgency.
Please remember, we are here to support you on your fundraising journey. Also please download the infographic and keep it handy! Here’s to your success!
In Community,
Lynette Battle
